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February 2004 PMID 14686884

The emotional costs of parents' conditional regard: a self-determination theory analysis.

Avi Assor, Guy Roth, Edward L Deci

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The posts acknowledge that over-controlling parents can cause damage, with one suggesting it might lead children to seek risky behaviors like OnlyFans, which demonstrates concern and personal interpretation of the emotional costs. The tone combines caution with curiosity, reflecting an interest in understanding and addressing the effects of conditional regard.

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Most discussions assume that over-controlling parenting has negative effects, aligning with the article's findings.

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The discussions seem to recognize that the research highlights important issues about parenting and child wellbeing.

Abstract in brief

  • Parents' use of conditional regard (changing how they show love based on children's behavior) can lead to negative emotional effects for both parents and children, including feelings of resentment and poor wellbeing (Study 1).
  • Children's perceptions of their parents using conditional regard in various domains (emotion, control, prosocial behavior, academics, sports) are linked to internalized feelings of obligation and emotional costs, such as resentment and decreased self-esteem (Study 2).
  • Although conditional regard can encourage children to perform certain behaviors, it often comes with emotional consequences like internal conflict and resentment, highlighting its complex impact on child's motivation and wellbeing.
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RobWalterz
@RobWalterz · X

@pearlythingz Over controlling damages kids https://t.co/MafZ4KFXYL https://t.co/kOZRPK6W1i https://t.co/2OTqjWxo5y https://t.co/VpxZ43QuDT https://t.co/WPSuag6LfJ https://t.co/ZMDFOt300k

Sep 17, 2023 · 3,175 followers View post →
RobWalterz
@RobWalterz · X

@mhandy111 @WassicaboaMouse @cboyack @MrBeast @Relolyn Id be careful because over-controlling damages kids, can push daughters to onlyfans, etc.. I would read more on the subject: https://t.co/MafZ4KFXYL https://t.co/kOZRPK6W1i https://t.co/2OTqjWxo5y https://t.co/VpxZ43QuDT https://t.co/WPSuag6LfJ https://t.co/ZMDFOt300k

Apr 14, 2023 · 1 like · 3,175 followers View post →