J Soc Psychol January 2012 PMID 22208110

Women and men in love: who really feels it and says it first?

Marissa A Harrison, Jennifer C Shortall

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The discussions reflect high interest in the research, with posts highlighting key findings like men falling in love faster and expressing love earlier, often using words like 'challenging' and 'supporting' to show critical engagement. Some examples include references to empirical studies and debates about societal stereotypes, demonstrating thoughtful analysis and meaningful conversation around the topic.

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Most discussions support the study's findings that men fall in love and express it earlier, challenging common stereotypes about women being more romantic.

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The discussion centers on intriguing insights into gender differences in love, showing high curiosity and engagement with the research results.

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Participants reference various studies, statistics, and interpretations—e.g., 'men reported falling in love earlier,' indicating deeper analysis and dialogue.

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While the social discussion raises awareness about societal stereotypes, its influence on personal perceptions and societal views appears moderate.

Abstract in brief

  • Both men and women believe that women are more romantic and likely to say "I love you" first, but the study found that men report falling in love and expressing it earlier than women.
  • There were no significant differences between men and women in their attitudes toward love and romance, suggesting societal stereotypes may not reflect actual behaviors.
  • The findings imply that women might be more cautious and pragmatic about love, challenging the common stereotype that women are more romantic or impulsive in love relationships.]

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When asked "Who falls in love in a relationship first?" 88% say women When asked about their most recent relationship, men reported falling in love faster (d=.48) 64% of men compared to 19% of women reported saying “I love you” to their partners first https://t.co/mDuc7W91mt https://t.co/dPDMMelOTv

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Men love idealistically, women love opportunistically. https://t.co/JMoMat5zYj https://t.co/rpvl1dnfZJ

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Men fall more and faster in love. Well, supposedly, that's what the media were reporting based on this 172 college students study from 2010 that suddenly went viral in 2017... https://t.co/xBoSifOq4c https://t.co/X92obN1SJq

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日本進化心理学IHAセンター
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女性よりも男性の方が恋に落ちるのも、それを表現するのも早いことを示した研究 Harrison, M. A., & Shortall, J. C. (2011). Women and men in love: Who really feels it and says it first?. The Journal of social psychology, 151(6), 727-736. https://t.co/EPFHMqzr1L

Aug 8, 2024 · 6 likes · 2,379 followers View post →

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日本進化心理学IHAセンター
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女性よりも男性の方が恋に落ちるのも、それを表現するのも早いことを示した研究 Harrison, M. A., & Shortall, J. C. (2011). Women and men in love: Who really feels it and says it first?. The Journal of social psychology, 151(6), 727-736. https://t.co/EPFHMqzr1L

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¿Qué dice la ciencia? «Los hombres informaron haberse enamorado y expresarlo antes que las mujeres, desafiando la creencia común de que las mujeres son más románticas» https://t.co/8gtwG4jj8k https://t.co/HHJpYlz1tF

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ternyata, men itu falling in love faster :) "men reported falling in love earlier and expressing it earlier than women reported." https://t.co/71fGt156di https://t.co/XMEC41z9NU

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Analyses also showed no sex differences in attitudinal responses to items about love and romance. These results indicate that women may not be the greater "fools for love" that society assumes. https://t.co/ElxakyFaPL

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zushi
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@joodaloop There are some empirical support for this, for example: https://t.co/nWyMwFJIvh Evolutionarily it also feels consistent with theories & data on choosiness by gender, but there are probably a lot of confounders to address.

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